Frequently Asked Questions - FAQs

FAQs

Improve your relationship

Whether you are dating, engaged, or married, PREPARE/ENRICH has been scientifically proven to improve your relationship dynamics and relationship skills.
Outcome studies have found couples who take PREPARE/ENRICH and receive 3-5 feedback sessions with a trained Facilitator have significant improvement on 10 out of 13 relationship categories and greatly improve their relationship satisfaction.

Reduce your risk of divorce

Studies have shown couples who complete the PREPARE/ENRICH program prior to marriage have the potential to reduce their chances of divorce by as much as 30%.

A rich and rewarding experience!

Couples enjoy the process of completing the assessment and having feedback sessions with their Facilitator. It is fun to explore and examine your relationship within a framework that encourages awareness of thoughts, feelings, constructive dialogue, and meaningful understanding of each other. PREPARE/ENRICH helps you examine your relationship on dimensions found to be important to relationship health. You will learn how to communicate more effectively with each other so that you can improve your relationship and continue to understand, connect, and relate in healthy ways. You will learn and practice skills that will serve your relationship now and in the future.

Each facilitator will need to set the couple up in the system. Directions for administration can be found in the facilitators manual on pages 33-35 or view the following video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qLtxkHTeFiI&list=PL0F6688F2C8F93AB2

* Please note: Facilitators should never give their personal login information to a couple to set themselves up.

If you need assistance with...

  • Log-in problems and general local issues: Call us in NZ on 0800 895 172 or email us at cs@enrich.co.nz
  • Problems with on-line processing after logging in: You should use the HELP tab that is available on your Manage Couples page to email the International Office directly. Please include your details and any couple details that are necessary. Make sure that you have a current email address entered in your record.

The scoring fee is NZD50 (excl gst) per couple. Please see the 'Purchase Scorings' tab for quantity discounts. You can purchase and/or use a scoring credit from your account, or you can select to have the couple make the payment when they take the assessment online. There may be a minor currency fluctuation refelected in the final amount charged to the credit card used.

When setting up a couple you will need their first names, email addresses, and knowledge of which Faith Based Version to choose for them.

* Please note: Both partners can share the same email address and you may enter "male/female" if you are uncomfortable entering their names.

The Facilitator has the option of choosing a Standard Non Faith Based Version (Research-based Spiritual Beliefs scale), Protestant, Catholic, Orthodox Christian or Jewish adaptations.

If a couple has different faith backgrounds, the facilitator can also pre-select the Interfaith/Interchurch version.

After the couple has been set up in the system you click "Send the login information" and the system sends an email to the addresses you entered when adding the couple. Your couples will need to click on the link in the email, and login using the Code provided.

*Please note: Each couple will share the same code.

First you should make sure you entered the email address correctly. If incorrect, see the next item for making modifications to an email address. If the email address is correct have them check their Junk Mail or Spam Filters. Each email system has unique settings that might be blocking the delivery of our email. You can give the couple their login code (found on Manage Couples page, or in email copy you received) and direct them to the couple link: http://www.prepare-enrich.com/pecouple.html, or forward the copy of the email you received with their login to the couple.

Modify Payment Option:

From your Manage Couple's page click on the button next to your couple's name. If you have successfully sent the login code there will be a Green Button that reads "Login Code Sent month/day/year". Click on the Green Button, and select "Modify Payment Option".

*Please note: Payment option cannot be modified after they begin.

When using the Customised Version, facilitators do not need to make any customisations, or select an inventory type (besides selecting a Faith Based Version). Facilitators trained in Version 2000 were accustomed to choosing from one of the five assessment types.

The online format automatically customises itself to fit the unique stage (i.e. dating, engaged, married) and structure (i.e. cohabitating, raising children, or creating a step family) of the couple's relationship based on background decision tree questions that will pre-select which scales (questions) relate to their situation. The first partner that logs in to take the assessment will be the one to answer these questions.

When both partners are complete, you will receive an email that their report is ready. You can also go to your Manage Couple's page to check on their progress. Once the couple is complete, you can login to the Manage Couple's page and click on the "View or Print Reports" button next to your couple's names.

From the page where you "View or Print Reports" there is a button that says "View or Print Feedback Materials". You can download the Couple's Workbook (30 pages), Six Core Exercises, and Feedback Guide.

The Couple's Report is simply a subset of pages taken from the detailed Facilitator's Report. It includes the following sections:

  1. Introduction and Table of Contents
  2. Summary of Strength and Growth Areas
  3. Relationship Dynamics: Assertiveness, Self Confidence, Avoidance, Partner Dominance
  4. Personal Stress Profile
  5. Couple Map
  6. Family Map (when applicable)
  7. SCOPE Personality Section

Need more information, refer here: www.prepare-enrich.com.au/using-the-prepare-enrich-couples-report

Yes, the Couple's Report was designed to be given to the couple. It is a subset of pages taken from the detailed Facilitators report. Previous versions of PREPARE/ENRICH did not include a Report that was available for the couple to keep.

The Couple's Report does not include sensitive information about abuse or how each person responded to actual inventory items found in the detailed Facilitator's Report.
Need more information, refer here: www.prepare-enrich.com.au/using-the-prepare-enrich-couples-report

The Facilitator's Report, Couple's Report, and Couple's Workbook are all produced as PDF files. You have several options when working with PDF files; print in black and white, print selected pages or the entire document, save the file to your own computer, and send the file as an email attachment.

The simple answer to this question is "no". As PREPARE/ENRICH facilitator you decide whether you will use or not use the Couple's Report. If you feel it will somehow interfere or distract the couple from the process, you can choose to go through the exercises in the Couple's Workbook without giving them a copy of the Couple's Report.

If you have reservations about using the Couple's Report, consider the following:

  • Provide pages of the Couple's Report only as they are relevant to the material being covered in each meeting or class. This reduces the likelihood of unrelated questions or distractions being raised by the couple. For example: they will be less likely to raise questions about the SCOPE personality section while you are trying to cover the Personal Stress Profile and related exercises.
  • Hold onto the Couple's Report until the end of the feedback process. This allows couples to tune into your feedback and the exercises without feeling overwhelmed or distracted, but they leave the process with a summary record of their PREPARE/ENRICH results.
  • Select certain pages or just the portion of the Couple's Report you feel will be most helpful to the couple. You are not required to give them the whole report if you do not feel it will be productive for the couple.

Need more information, refer here: www.prepare-enrich.com.au/using-the-prepare-enrich-couples-report

Login Code Sent (Green): Shows the date the code was sent to the couple View or Print Reports (Green): The Couple is complete – Click here to obtain Reports Last Login (Green): Shows the date of the last login by the couple.

Action required by Facilitator:

Customise Inventory (Red): The Faith Based Version has not yet been selected, Select Payment Option: Payment option has not been selected Send Login Code: The login code has not been sent.

*After finishing these prompts, make sure you Send Login Code.

If you have entered a couple that no longer wants to take the assessment you can delete them by clicking on the Status Button next to their names. You will then need to select the "Delete Couple" button. When a prepaid scoring was used from your account it will be credited to your account. If the couple has already purchased their scoring, but not completed, they will need to contact our office for the refund.

The hide/unhide option gives you the ability to hide your couples from the main list. This is helpful when you are working with a large amount of couples, and don't want to see the couple records you've completed. There are instructions on the page after choosing the option "Hide/Unhide".

Couple's can be sorted by Date added, Login Code, Partner 1 or 2. Clicking on the title will allow you to sort accordingly.

The reports are only available for one year from the date of completion.

Recertification is not required to use the Customised Version. However refresher training is available upon request.

On page 2 of the Couple Workbook the couple are asked to identify their strengths/growth areas in the areas of Personal Style & Habits and Sex & Affection. Different labels are used in the Facilitator Report on page 4 (Partner Style & Habits and Sexual Expectations in the case of the Daniel & Maria sample premarital couple). The Couple Workbook exercise uses different labels since it is a general exercise that the couples do irrespective of their specific situation for which their inventory was customised and the labels are intended to be more general, less threatening and more useful for purpose of the exercise on page 2. The Facilitator Report labels vary depending on the customisation and are more descriptive of the specific item content rather than being designed for the couple exercise.

There are two separate issues: (1) in the discussion with the couple the Facilitator selected the "Standard-Non Faith Based version" since that was their preference to do so, but (2) when answering online the couple chose to select that they were Protestant denomination (possibly just nominal). The Facilitator could have selected Protestant if the couple had wanted to do so. It is a matter of preference/suitability for the set of spiritual belief questions as distinct from the denominational affiliation response (which might just be nominal for some couples).

The key to preventing collusion is to be open with couples and to work with their motivation. Discuss what is the purpose and value of responding independently. Discuss the dangers associated with collusion and answering dishonestly. Help the couple to see how honest and uninfluenced personal responding is going to be a benefit them as individuals and as a couple. If you are really concerned about a couple, maybe it is best to get them to respond independently on your own computer system (simply provide your email in place of the couple's emails).

In June 2010 we launched a new feature within the Customised Version of PREPARE/ENRICH allowing facilitators to select an Orthodox Christian version for the Spiritual Beliefs Category. This ensures your couples will take an inventory which reflects a more Orthodox Christian perspective.

A panel of Orthodox clergy and counsellors adapted the PREPARE/ENRICH content to better reflect Orthodox teaching and theology. We'd like to thank each of them for their contributions and we hope the tool will be a blessing to both premarital and married couples within the Orthodox tradition.

Rev. Fr. John A Mefrige MDiv, MS MFT
V. Rev. Fr. Marc Dunaway
Rev. Fr. Charles Joanides Ph.D, LMFT
Phillip Mamalakis Ph.D., LMFT
Kerry Pappas MA LMFT

The items are listed below:
Orthodox Christian Spiritual Beliefs Scale

(-) Spiritual differences cause some tension in our relationship.
(+) We both support the practice of giving a portion of our income to the church.
(+) I understand what the Orthodox Church teaches about marriage as a sacrament.
(+) We have discussed the importance of receiving communion regularly as a couple and family.
(+) I believe our marriage must include active participation in a church community.
(+) We have discussed what it means to love each other as husband and wife.
(+) I believe that God calls me to exercise humility and self-denial in marriage.
(+) The Orthodox faith is very important to both of us.
(-) My partner and I have different ideas about how we will practice our Orthodox faith at home.
(+) I understand how God uses marriage and family life to help us work out our salvation.

Dating Couples: From late September 2010, dating couples taking PREPARE/ENRICH will also be asked the questions about children in the decision tree which customises what scales they receive. We've had consistent feedback from Facilitators that they want to discuss future family plans with couples who might form a step family or have children together. Basically, they can get every scale that an engaged couple can get in this area of children and parenting. We also added in the Previously Married scale for dating couples where one or both partners have been through a past divorce.

Do you recommend running a group made up of couples from different relationship stages?

Bringing couples of various relationship stages together in one group can lead to a dynamic experience for all. For instance, engaged couples benefit from the dose of realism and interpersonal learning that happens when they witness how married couples cope with life's stressors, honor their commitment, grow, heal, and express themselves. Engaged and dating couples reenergize those around them with their hope and optimism.

Can we use this program if we do not have time for 10 sessions?

The P/E Group Program outlines ten sessions but you may use only the sessions that work for the
time you have.

Do you recommend following the sessions in consecutive order?

The first session is written as an introductory session and the last as a wrap-up. All other sessions need not be delivered in consecutive order.

Can the P/E Group Program be used in a Retreat Format?

The P/E Group Program lends itself well to a retreat format as it allows for a combination of teaching, small groups, and break-out time for couples.

Should we provide couples with their full Couple's Report-Group Edition or hand out only relevant pages for each session?

This is a decision you will get to make. Keep in mind that, while the full document approach is easier to manage, the page-by-page approach reduces the distraction of couples reading ahead as well as the potential issue of having couples forget to bring documents for future sessions.

The Couple Exercises for the Group Program do not have biblical references. Where can I find these?

Couple Workbooks with Biblical references integrated into the content for each topic are available as a PDF when you log in with your Facilitator ID and password. Look for the "For Facilitators" tab under "Supplemental materials", or as hard copies in our bookstore.

Can I customize the PowerPoint for the Group Program?

Absolutely. After you have downloaded and saved the PowerPoint to your computer, you can add extra content and slides as needed to tailor the program to your setting.

Reminder: Integrate stories into your presentations. People want to hear about real relationships. They relate to and remember stories, whether they are about your family of origin, your own relationship, or other couples you have counselled or mentored. Have fun with this and remember to use good judgment in terms of protecting the privacy of others and sharing appropriately.

View the video overview here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQB_AMO6roU&list=PL0F6688F2C8F93AB

Bringing couples of various relationship stages together in one group can lead to a dynamic experience for all. For instance, engaged couples benefit from the dose of realism and interpersonal learning that happens when they witness how married couples cope with life's stressors, honor their commitment, grow, heal, and express themselves. Engaged and dating couples reenergize those around them with their hope and optimism.

The PREPARE/ENRICH Group Program outlines ten sessions but you may use only the sessions that work for the time you have.

The first session is written as an introductory session and the last as a wrap-up. All other sessions need not be delivered in consecutive order.

The PREPARE/ENRICH Group Program lends itself well to a retreat format as it allows for a combination of teaching, small groups, and break-out time for couples

This is a decision you will get to make. Keep in mind that, while the full document approach is easier to manage, the page-by-page approach reduces the distraction of couples reading ahead as well as the potential issue of having couples forget to bring documents for future sessions.

Couple Workbooks with Biblical references integrated into the content for each topic are available as a PDF when you log in with your Facilitator ID and password. Look for the "For Facilitators" tab under "Supplemental materials", or as hard copies in our bookstore.

Absolutely. After you have downloaded and saved the PowerPoint to your computer, you can add extra content and slides as needed to tailor the program to your setting.

Reminder: Integrate stories into your presentations. People want to hear about real relationships. They relate to and remember stories, whether they are about your family of origin, your own relationship, or other couples you have counselled or mentored. Have fun with this and remember to use good judgment in terms of protecting the privacy of others and sharing appropriately.

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Standard Feedback Materials

Taking the relationship assessment is just the first step in completing the PREPARE/ENRICH Program. Next, couples should meet with their accredited facilitator to interpret and to provide feedback.
The PREPARE/ENRICH Couple's Workbook contains over twenty couple exercises designed to increase the knowledge and key skills proven to build stronger relationships. We suggest facilitators provide each individual with their own copy of the Couple's Workbook, and at a minimum, work through the six core exercises.

The Standard Feedback materials are currently available in the languages as detailed on our website .

The Parenting Version is a good choice for any committed couple whose primary concerns are children and parenting issues. While the Parenting Version does assess some relational constructs (communication, conflict resolution, finances, partner styles & habits, and relationship dynamics), the main focus is on parenting issues.

Yes, the Parenting Version is customised by the couple based on background questions they answer regarding children.

No, like all PREPARE/ENRICH assessments, the Parenting Version is a relationship assessment which assumes the couple is in a committed relationship with one another.

In addition to global parenting/child/teen statements, the Parenting Version provides each parent the opportunity to evaluate their style of parenting with one to four children. If couples are parenting more than four children, they should select the children most relevant to the parenting issues they are managing.

No, the Parenting Version is only completed by the parents. However, the facilitator will need the first name, gender and ages of the children in order to type them into the system so the couple can answer questions about the children.

The facilitator will need the couple's information (first name and email address) and the following information about each child: first name, age, and gender. The Facilitator will also have the option to include the Family Spiritual Beliefs scale.

No, the parenting scales address issues of discipline, rules and parent-child communication.

Yes, it could be used in a parent education/support/enrichment group setting.

Getting Started

  • To get started with the Parenting Version of PREPARE/ENRICH, you will need to become PREPARE/ENRICH Certified Facilitator
  • Once trained we will on request activate the Parenting Version in your facilitator account.

The Mission of PREPARE/ENRICH is: "To Help Build Strong Marriages and Healthy Relationships". This has been our goal for over 30 years and continues to be our top priority. Our inventories are designed to be used with couples across the life cycle (dating, engaged, married).

Our mission is exemplified in the development of all of our products. Because our database is primarily heterosexual couples, national norms and research studies are based on heterosexual couples.

Once facilitators (clergy, counselors, or mentors) are trained in the use of our assessments, they use the assessments with the couples they work with in their own setting. Some facilitators choose to use the inventories with same sex couples and they report the program is helpful for them.

In summary, our goal is to equip facilitators with the very best relationship tools for building strong marriages and healthy relationships.